tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post8439976039524114069..comments2024-03-06T05:16:15.314-05:00Comments on Chicky Chicky Baby: Crazy days and desperate nightsChicky Chicky Babyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-54745800184501442672008-10-04T19:05:00.000-05:002008-10-04T19:05:00.000-05:00My youngest daughter (of 3) didn't sleep through t...My youngest daughter (of 3) didn't sleep through the night until she was almost 20 months. I understand completely what you are going through and I had many night of tears (my own) and trying to sleep with a pillow over my head. She is 27 months now and is the best sleeper of the three ... she just had to torture us first. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there, it WILL get better!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-53461363783713099102008-10-03T23:45:00.000-05:002008-10-03T23:45:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry. I understand, I do.I'm so sorry. I understand, I do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-70899936841753065892008-10-02T08:28:00.000-05:002008-10-02T08:28:00.000-05:00If it helps in any small way, just know that there...If it helps in any small way, just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.<BR/>It won't last forever and you will get your life back. It just doesn't feel like it at the moment.<BR/>So many of us have been there, I mean really BEEN there, and yet here we are making jokes about it on our blogs now!<BR/>Keep your chin up Chicky.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01124513427678555863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-64614251208226396932008-09-30T22:24:00.000-05:002008-09-30T22:24:00.000-05:00Oh honey - I don't know what to say. But I am thi...Oh honey - I don't know what to say. But I am thinking of you and sending you loads of love and good wishes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-33734457937762616432008-09-30T21:50:00.000-05:002008-09-30T21:50:00.000-05:00I am in the trench with you. I know this exactly. ...I am in the trench with you. I know this exactly. It is like you are in my head.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11342425698876916791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-34082361959059409192008-09-30T18:53:00.000-05:002008-09-30T18:53:00.000-05:00I remember that period of time, and I felt much th...I remember that period of time, and I felt much the same way. I promise it will get better. Mira went through that same frustrating needy period, and I thought I'd never survive. <BR/><BR/>It gets easier. Do whatever you need to do to cope at the moment (wine is always a good idea, I think), but know that it will pass.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07345875955750219033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-58763860954870789682008-09-30T14:00:00.000-05:002008-09-30T14:00:00.000-05:00I feel the same way sometimes about my 6 week old ...I feel the same way sometimes about my 6 week old and then I feel such tremendous guilt. It kinda sucks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-65723377643166584112008-09-30T12:31:00.000-05:002008-09-30T12:31:00.000-05:00Hang in there sweetie...Hang in there sweetie...Don Mills Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-51025300395948963922008-09-30T10:30:00.000-05:002008-09-30T10:30:00.000-05:00Oliver was a very high-needs, high-maintenance bab...Oliver was a very high-needs, high-maintenance baby. He's still, in many ways, like this as a three-year-old, but it is a lot better. HE is a lot better. And *I* am a lot better. It's a learning curve - after having Oliver the thing that I found the most difficult was how different my kids were - their needs, their desires, their wants, their abilities, their personalities...everything. It took me a while to be able to bounce back and forth between the two of them, and to find a rhythm. But I did, and you will too. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there.mamatuliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02692442843330582571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-13148161840550587592008-09-30T01:11:00.000-05:002008-09-30T01:11:00.000-05:00I have never been more exhausted than I was after ...I have never been more exhausted than I was after the birth and first 6 months of my second child. I was so sleep deprived I had forgotten my spouse went to France for 2 weeks leaving me alone with the 2 and a half year old and the 3 month old. I have no memory of him leaving, being gone or coming home. I remember everything so I know I was badly altered from sheer complete exhaustion.<BR/><BR/>I disagree with Margalit and Ferber but that's me. We tried it with the second and neither one of us could stand it. He did start sleeping more and longer at about 6 months. I also took advantage of spouse when he did come home to take as many naps as possible.<BR/><BR/>I wish you and Catherine the best. Hugs.Crazed Nitwithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09433413927453925851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-83317894453335090812008-09-29T23:44:00.000-05:002008-09-29T23:44:00.000-05:00Tania, my daughter, the one you met, was that baby...Tania, my daughter, the one you met, was that baby. NOTHING soothed her. She never slept, she never ate, she hated to be held but she hated to be put down even more. Nothing soothed her, nothing made her happy, nothing but nothing made her shut the fuck up...for 18 months. <BR/><BR/>Two things I might suggest. It's up to you if you want to try them. She might have some kind of gastro problem that isn't showing up as real live reflux. It could be what is termed silent reflux, which is almost more painful because the stomach acids burn the esophagus and babies just can't TELL you how much something hurts. So it might be worthwhile for you to see a pediatric gastroenterologist and have this checked out. You CAN give zantac (RX) that might work wonders. Or it might not. But it could be worth exploring.<BR/><BR/>And number two. Call Childrens ASAP and make an appointment to see Ferber. I know, you hate him, you think CIO it cruel, you would never do it to your kid, blah blah blah. Just go see him as soon as she is 6 months old. TALK TO HIM. YOu don't have to do it, but you might change your life if you do. It took me 18 months to get up the nerve, and 2 weeks to teach my kid to sleep and stop being such a cranky pants. Because that sleep deprivation is being felt by your daughter as well as by you. She is just as miserable as you are, and she needs to sleep. <BR/><BR/>I wish I could offer you more.margalithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09782326504951603071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-76977208956380814012008-09-29T22:59:00.000-05:002008-09-29T22:59:00.000-05:00oh sister. i'm so sorry. i am so sorry. this is ...oh sister. i'm so sorry. i am so sorry. this is really really hard.<BR/><BR/>and it will pass. but that doesn't help right now.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-30450223322323796732008-09-29T21:36:00.000-05:002008-09-29T21:36:00.000-05:00I was just reading this post and I was instantly t...I was just reading this post and I was instantly transported back to when my son was a baby. He had reflux so bad that for the first year of his life, there were months and months that I was so sleep deprived that I thought for sure I was losing my mind. I felt like a failure so many times! While parenting is so rewarding, it is almost the most frustrating thing you will ever do in your life!<BR/><BR/>you're doing a great job and one of these days, she will sleep through the night and will look at you with a big goofy grin and these hard times will be a distant memory. Until then, please know that every parent goes through this at some point. I wish I was close and could give you a break!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15153421483993082169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-62833644727661122902008-09-29T20:02:00.000-05:002008-09-29T20:02:00.000-05:00I'll never forget spending a vacation with my cous...I'll never forget spending a vacation with my cousin and her 3-month old son over 20 years ago. Jeremy cried. And cried. My cousin just held him tight and said over and over "Mommy loves you." He's a wonderful young man now!<BR/><BR/>Have you tried the top of the dryer trick (with supervision, of course)?<BR/><BR/>BobbieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-56091641311641880512008-09-29T17:32:00.000-05:002008-09-29T17:32:00.000-05:00Wow, I want to cry with you because I have SO been...Wow, I want to cry with you because I have SO been there. I have three, and one of them was exactly as you describe, which meant *I* was exactly as you describe. Hardest thing I have ever gone through, but you already know it does eventually end. Have a glass of wine when you are stressed, and don't feel bad about putting in a dvd for the toddler if it means you can nap on the couch when the baby sleeps. You are in a battlezone, typical parenting rules do NOT apply.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-13302897616582349622008-09-29T16:42:00.000-05:002008-09-29T16:42:00.000-05:00ummm, jumping in here, this sounds a bit like my s...ummm, jumping in here, this sounds a bit like my second child. Never slept more than two hours at a time, screamed the rest of the time, needed constant holding, jiggling, rocking. <BR/><BR/>After 8 months of this, my 2.5 year old daughter sat up in bed in the middle of the night as I was trying to put the baby down and said "I'm getting really tired of this." <BR/><BR/>"So'm I honey, so'm I..." <BR/>I called the pediatrician the next morning and said "drug him or hospitalize me. your choice." And after only 3 nights of a mild sedative he was a different - happy! - kid. <BR/><BR/>And I was a Mommy who no longer walked into walls.<BR/> <BR/>Basically, he couldn't transition from dozing to deep sleep and just needed a little help. I felt like the worst mother on the planet for drugging my baby, but there simply - after so many months of trying - no other option. You might want to discuss it with your doc. <BR/><BR/>PS. 28 years later, he's still a wild child...MOmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06064918097253620269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-50154790618090943342008-09-29T15:58:00.000-05:002008-09-29T15:58:00.000-05:00Yeah, not looking forward to that again. Can I re...Yeah, not looking forward to that again. <BR/><BR/>Can I recommend the Miracle Blanket (http://www.miracleblanket.com/)? Sooo much better than the Swaddle Me. We turned to it at 3 months with DS and went from 1.5 hour segments of sleep to 5+ hours. Of course, he started rolling back to front at 4 months, so we had to discontinue use, bringing us back to sleepless nights. But that month of sleep was pure bliss, and definitely worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-61687607433562720102008-09-29T14:59:00.001-05:002008-09-29T14:59:00.001-05:00I KNOW. Been there. I did survive, and so shall ...I KNOW. Been there. I did survive, and so shall you, even though it may not feel like it now.<BR/><BR/>She would start crying at 11 and end around 5, only to be up for hours at a time. All this from birth. <BR/><BR/>Adoration, exhaustion. Love, frustration. <BR/><BR/>All you can do is what you have been, walk away sometimes. Love the rest. Cry a lot, if it helps.<BR/><BR/>Good luck.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09188733653627326208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-30942468048230649202008-09-29T14:59:00.000-05:002008-09-29T14:59:00.000-05:00I KNOW. Been there. I did survive, and so shall ...I KNOW. Been there. I did survive, and so shall you, even though it may not feel like it now.<BR/><BR/>She would start crying at 11 and end around 5, only to be up for hours at a time. All this from birth. <BR/><BR/>Adoration, exhaustion. Love, frustration. <BR/><BR/>All you can do is what you have been, walk away sometimes. Love the rest. Cry a lot, if it helps.<BR/><BR/>Good luck.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09188733653627326208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-83268402427768994642008-09-29T14:36:00.000-05:002008-09-29T14:36:00.000-05:00With all this sleep deprivation going on, you woul...With all this sleep deprivation going on, you would think the internet would be a dull place right now but with all the wonderfully well spoken women (and men) on here, its still wonderful.<BR/><BR/>Chicky, I feel your pain. As I was telling Her Bad Mother, if I was anywhere near, I would come and help. If you need someone to talk to, or just to unload on, I'm here.<BR/><BR/>fetchthis@hotmail.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-50039047980903410862008-09-29T14:19:00.000-05:002008-09-29T14:19:00.000-05:00Say it with me: This too shall pass. (it does. it ...Say it with me: This too shall pass. <BR/><BR/>(it does. it did. I promise.)karengreenershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02488069680575426742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-91023748864558387072008-09-29T13:28:00.000-05:002008-09-29T13:28:00.000-05:00Perhaps this would help with the flailing problem?...Perhaps this would help with the flailing problem?<BR/><BR/>http://www.thewoombie.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-5985518602726411472008-09-29T12:45:00.000-05:002008-09-29T12:45:00.000-05:00Oh, open-armed, huge, colossal hugs.I remember. I ...Oh, open-armed, huge, colossal hugs.<BR/><BR/>I remember. I remember thinking this was the WORST thing I had ever thought of to do voluntarily to myself. And it seemed like I was All.Alone.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17308665452575511461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-31605788371313664442008-09-29T12:23:00.000-05:002008-09-29T12:23:00.000-05:00just this: DITTOjust this: DITTOHer Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-40583463046096473782008-09-29T11:38:00.000-05:002008-09-29T11:38:00.000-05:00Thinking of you buddy, oh how I wish I could start...Thinking of you buddy, oh how I wish I could start a red wine IV drip for you, with a big fluffy duvet and a pile of chocolate. Since I can't, I'll just have to do all the rocking, and snuggling while you sleep in Boston in a couple of weeks - can you make it until then?motherbumperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16053978199395919666noreply@blogger.com