tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post115644025146150964..comments2024-03-06T05:16:15.314-05:00Comments on Chicky Chicky Baby: The secret world of bloggingChicky Chicky Babyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1157312579293446662006-09-03T14:42:00.000-05:002006-09-03T14:42:00.000-05:00I have one good friend who has my blog address and...I have one good friend who has my blog address and reads it regularly. I feel very comfortable having her read it, because we're close enough that we'd discuss things in person that I also discuss with her in real life. My husband also reads my blog. But otherwise, my blog is off-limits to people I know in real life -- I don't feel comfortable sharing it with casual friends or family, because I wouldn't normally discuss personal stuff with them the way I do on the blog.<BR/><BR/>With respect to your friend, you could just mention that you have one and see where it goes from there. She may not even express an interest in reading it, but if she does seem interested, you could give her the address.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1157159772163865762006-09-01T20:16:00.000-05:002006-09-01T20:16:00.000-05:00Ha! I am constantly on the verge of outing myself ...Ha! I am constantly on the verge of outing myself as the blogging and the blogmamas become more part of my life. It'll happen one day, and then what?! <BR/><BR/>(oh, blogger just answered that question: vahthpnk)kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1157065733205652512006-08-31T18:08:00.000-05:002006-08-31T18:08:00.000-05:00Pattie the Domesticator said exactly what I was go...Pattie the Domesticator said exactly what I was going to say here. EVERYONE knows so I do have to censor myself and I hate that some days (especially when I am really hating my husband and the hubs and MIL read religiously). OH well, the purpose was the journal Liam's life. I need another secret blog so I can be "naughty" too. I might even cuss! ;)Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07950880083795695746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156868073994970352006-08-29T11:14:00.000-05:002006-08-29T11:14:00.000-05:00I'm in the exact same boat.No one except big daddy...I'm in the exact same boat.<BR/>No one except big daddy knows about my blog.<BR/>I think I kind of like it that way, not sure why, <BR/>I just do.<BR/>not that I really post about anything really juicy or super intimate, but I guess I like knowing that if I did decide to, it would be anonymous. <BR/>Then again I probably would never post about anything that I wouldn't talk about openly with my friends.<BR/>But then again, I wouldn't invite my friends over and ask them if they wanted to read some of my old journals, to me it feels like the same thing...<BR/>But I do have a friend that just had a baby and is at home on mat. leave and I think she might really enjoy reading some of the blogs that I do <BR/>(like chicky chicky baby)<BR/>so do I mention them or not? hmm.<BR/>Sorry I'm no help at all.petite gourmandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14390555269928625967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156801158766744872006-08-28T16:39:00.000-05:002006-08-28T16:39:00.000-05:00We count the friends we have as bleaders on one ha...We count the friends we have as bleaders on one hand. I like it that way. I recently told a kindred mommy spirit I don't get enough of about the blog and am glad I did.<BR/><BR/>But I only do it with a 'clique' sad to say.. I would hate for example if my blog ever got out to my Mom or some other friends I *need* to write about. Tell her if she can handle the info the way you want it handled and don't get your hopes up about her blogging. NOTE perfectly wonderful and nice people totally don't get what we are up to with these thingy'smo-wohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10934156423936866994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156781468607394022006-08-28T11:11:00.000-05:002006-08-28T11:11:00.000-05:00My family and friends now know about my blog. It w...My family and friends now know about my blog. It was secret prior to being pregnant, but then my husband blabbed about it because I had posted some belly photos and he thought I should share. Cue one harried night of deleting/editing old posts to make it "family-safe". So, I definitely censor myself. One or two coworkers know about it as well so I'm really careful about what I write. It is a nice way to share details with everyone about my daughter, but it is difficult at times to stifle thoughts/feelings.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156616544714908982006-08-26T13:22:00.000-05:002006-08-26T13:22:00.000-05:00My husband and his big mouth let it slip at a fami...My husband and his big mouth let it slip at a family gathering and it was before I had given any thought as to the "whys" and "hows" I wanted to write, I just knew that it was something I enjoyed and I hadn't written anything that needed to be censored anyway. But, then my intelligent, well-read aunt and uncle started talking to me about it and how much they enjoy it and how they PRINT it off for my grandmother because she doesn't "do" the internet, and I started to be nervous about my writing. That only lasted a little while though, and I figure, you know, it's mine, and this is me, I never intend to offend anyone and I don't want to be negative anyway, only truthful and honest with myself. So, if they like it, great, but if not, they still love me in "real" life. <BR/><BR/>Now, more of my family and friends that aren't nearby read it and like that it is another way to connect with my family and see and hear about the kids, so that makes me happy.<BR/><BR/>If I have anything really horrible to say, I guess I could always skip over to True Wife Confessions, read a few of those, maybe add my own if I felt like it, and feel a little better!<BR/><BR/>I understand your reluctance to share, however, there are times when I'm with other friends (who don't know) and I think they'd think I was nuts for doing this. I guess it's something that I need to get over.<BR/><BR/>Carriecarriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04038972194323564240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156606433543669522006-08-26T10:33:00.000-05:002006-08-26T10:33:00.000-05:00I haven't really told anyone close to me about my ...I haven't really told anyone close to me about my blog. I don't know why really...cause honestly I don't really believe that they would care to come read my rantings. But I think I do it more for me. For the anonymity it allows me. I like being able to vent -- rant -- cry -- ask for pity -- from faceless strangers that have become my friends -- cyber friends. I think letting my other world in on it would ruin it for me.Mama of 2https://www.blogger.com/profile/03644346636194842700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156597821131664852006-08-26T08:10:00.000-05:002006-08-26T08:10:00.000-05:00My friends and my family know about my blog becaus...My friends and my family know about my blog because...well, I have a big mouth. And yes, sometimes I do censor myself a bit. But, I have found the more I write, the more I don't care. It's not like I would personally attck anyone on my blog. I don't do it in "real life" so why would I do it on my blog? Sometimes, though, I do think about starting another secret blog and not tell a soul...then I guess I can be naughty, too!The Domesticatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08333326286672903879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156596786024065042006-08-26T07:53:00.000-05:002006-08-26T07:53:00.000-05:00%$#@ BLOGGER!!! Just ate my well-thought out, tho...%$#@ BLOGGER!!! Just ate my well-thought out, thoughtfully expressed post. Yargh.<BR/><BR/>Short answer: Nope. I'm keeping it anonymous. I *like* the secret identity feeling. I *like* the freedom to express things that my friends and family have already heard and are sick of hearing and yet I still want to talk about. I like having a place where I don't have to self-censor, because in real life, I *do* have to censor myself and I find it incredibly stressful and hard to do.Velmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06425566563311066790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156575475133284412006-08-26T01:57:00.000-05:002006-08-26T01:57:00.000-05:00Interesting question....I recently sent one of my ...Interesting question....<BR/><BR/>I recently sent one of my friends my blog address. She's pretty much the only friend that I sent it to and I only sent it to her b/c I feel REALLY comfortable with her. Like, I know that I would not need to censor myself with her b/c she is SO non-judgemental. The wonderful thing that resulted from this is that I think we are becoming BETTER friends now that she reads my blog. It's the craziest thing. She's even started her own blog in the last month. It's really been great for our friendship so far.<BR/><BR/>However, I have other friends (even some I've known longer) who I will probably never share my blog with. I just don't feel like I can be that open with them for various reasons. <BR/><BR/>My advice is to think back on all of your posts and think of this friend reading them and then assess how you feel. Do you feel embarrased or awkward or ashamed when you think of her reading these posts? If not, it probably won't hinder your writing to let her know about it. If you feel that you WOULD feel even slightly awkward having her read it, then I'd say don't tell her about it.Cristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07245436504933052526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156556913475984982006-08-25T20:48:00.000-05:002006-08-25T20:48:00.000-05:00Oh, everybody knows about my blog. My sisters, my...Oh, everybody knows about my blog. My sisters, my parents, my friends. Everyone. And yeah, I do find that I sensor myself when I'm writing. I can't really write about how one of my sisters pissed me off if I think they might read it the next day, now can I? I guess maybe that's why I don't write very often. That, or the fact that my brain is a dried-up old prune right now, and I couldn't pull a decent writing topic out of it if you paid me to. But either way...Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11201993230568182499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156544898658536352006-08-25T17:28:00.000-05:002006-08-25T17:28:00.000-05:00OMG...people in my real life would die if they rea...OMG...people in my real life would die if they read my blog.<BR/><BR/>I'm known as kind of...quiet. Polite. Reserved. Sometimes I seem standoffish. Because I have a lot of opinions, but I've found that sharing them with people IRL can lead to a lot of social tension. Especially since I live in the South, and my views often differ dramatically from those of most Southerners. <BR/><BR/>So, umm, in other words...no. <BR/><BR/>Most people irl have no idea I write or opine, and I'm going to keep that way for now.Blog Antagonisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09378330862349859998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156544320716021492006-08-25T17:18:00.000-05:002006-08-25T17:18:00.000-05:00All my family and friends know about the blog. I'...All my family and friends know about the blog. I'm really careful to stick to the kiddy topics and motherhood and such. I feel there's a lot more I would share with the world, but unfortunately I can't, don't want to upset someone. So yes, I definitely feel limited in what I say. Good luck with your decision.Mamacita Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11984053506182838282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156542849735450622006-08-25T16:54:00.000-05:002006-08-25T16:54:00.000-05:00I've been found by random family members and frien...I've been found by random family members and friends. I always say it's like tying naked. They're out there reading and I'm here typing and I just feel naked lol.<BR/>For the most part, I pretend that no one ever reads my blog...and then I just type. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156540943906312092006-08-25T16:22:00.000-05:002006-08-25T16:22:00.000-05:00I have told people I blog.I decided early on that ...I have told people I blog.<BR/>I decided early on that I didn't want to use it to bitch or tell on people (well not too much anyway) or at least make sure it was stuff I was happy to share with people anyway.<BR/><BR/>My mom refuses to read it. <BR/>All worried she will learn something weird.. I don't know.<BR/><BR/>So far only a couple of friends (one blogger who inspired me to start) read my blog and comment and they are cool and that is fine with me.Crunchy Carpetshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09543476826068578576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156539743689279912006-08-25T16:02:00.000-05:002006-08-25T16:02:00.000-05:00Everyone I know besides clients knows abobut my bl...Everyone I know besides clients knows abobut my blog. I suppose the only issue is in how you see your site - is it a diary? A place for secret thoughts and things you could never say out loud or to people you know? Because if so , forget it. <BR/><BR/>But from what I see of your blog, it's amazing. You don't vent, you don't whine, and you don't rag on your family. So...I think your friend would really like it. But of course it's your call. <BR/><BR/>I've actually gotten closer to friends who read my blog. They feel like they "know me" more now, or can keep up with my day to day life in a way they hadn't. It's one-sided, of course, but I still feel a deeer connectionw ith them.Mom101https://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156538786833093392006-08-25T15:46:00.000-05:002006-08-25T15:46:00.000-05:00I got my cousin blogging. And I love that I can re...I got my cousin blogging. And I love that I can read and see what she's been up to. I've been trying to get a few of my friends to blog. It gives you a whole new insight into a person.<BR/><BR/>I even tried to get my hubby into it but that didn't last long.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08527762200993175239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156536258392328782006-08-25T15:04:00.000-05:002006-08-25T15:04:00.000-05:00My sister found my blog when she was on my compute...My sister found my blog when she was on my computer, but I don't know if she reads it regularly. My mother knows I have one, but I haven't given her the address and don't plan on it. My dad doesn't know I have one and it will stay that way. <BR/><BR/>I don't have that many friends who live close by, so that's a moot point. A few friends know that I have one and they read it and that's fine, but since our relationships are mostly via email and phone, it's not a big deal. I might feel differently if I had to see someone on a regular basis. I'd probably not tell, in that case. I wouldn't want to have to censor myself.Major Bedheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669161302510096751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156528826753916562006-08-25T13:00:00.000-05:002006-08-25T13:00:00.000-05:00Everyone knew about my blog from the beginning. T...Everyone knew about my blog from the beginning. There's times I wish my parents didn't know, because there's SO MUCH MATERIAL there, but aside from a little self-censorship to protect the innocent on that front I don't worry about what I say. Unless you're going to say things that hurt people's feelings I don't think there's any reason not to share it. <BR/><BR/>And if you're worried...and you trust the person...you can always ask them not to disclose the secret. <BR/><BR/>I guess I just hate keeping secrets...it feels devious, and I'd rather just say what's on my mind to everyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156528418734989572006-08-25T12:53:00.000-05:002006-08-25T12:53:00.000-05:00i tell pretty much everyone. my whole family, all...i tell pretty much everyone. my whole family, all my friends in real life and online (message board).. everyone knows, and i don't care. lolj.sterlinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07704830625784773198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156526848238402392006-08-25T12:27:00.000-05:002006-08-25T12:27:00.000-05:00I've shared my URL with a few of my friends...some...I've shared my URL with a few of my friends...some of them love it and read it every day and others (like my best friend) really don't care too much to read it, which is totally fine by me. There are friends that I just haven't shared my blog with, for whatever reason. I figure if I want them to know, I'll tell them about it. If they ask, I'll tell them. If I'm hesitant at all about telling anyone about my blog, I don't tell them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156525415406251482006-08-25T12:03:00.000-05:002006-08-25T12:03:00.000-05:00I've been fairly open with my friends and siblings...I've been fairly open with my friends and siblings, and a few of them read regularly.<BR/><BR/>Several of my husband's friends and co-workers read, too, and I had a strange experience the other day of one of them coming up to me in the park when our kids were playing, and screaming "I just read your blog!!" (it was her first time). I was embarrassed for about two seconds, and then flattered.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04068133445052565116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156522570971692092006-08-25T11:16:00.000-05:002006-08-25T11:16:00.000-05:00The more, the merrier ... but yeah, I have refrain...The more, the merrier ... but yeah, I have refrained from writing some things that I thought might hurt some readers I know "in real life."Damselflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00139191935886860839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-1156520215175859982006-08-25T10:36:00.000-05:002006-08-25T10:36:00.000-05:00I've told many friends and relatives. I originally...I've told many friends and relatives. I originally started blogging to keep in touch. I don't mind censoring myself to make sure that I'm blogging nice.<BR/><BR/>However I think I rarely hold back because I think about 1% of them actually make their way over. It is a little disheartening that most of the people that I care about don't bother to stop by but my new comrades around the world make up for it immensely!ms bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06997925420763913039noreply@blogger.com