tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post343070928406147714..comments2024-03-06T05:16:15.314-05:00Comments on Chicky Chicky Baby: We don't always hurt the ones we love, but sometimes we consider itChicky Chicky Babyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-22004488377235744222007-04-18T22:08:00.000-05:002007-04-18T22:08:00.000-05:00I wrote about this Monday. And today when The Poo ...I wrote about this Monday. And today when The Poo hit me in a busy restaurant, I took her out and behind the dining area, where I finally just yelled at her at the top of my voice while I held her down during an impromptu time-out.<BR/><BR/>It is a bad place to be. But I'm there with you, and I promise we'll both do the right thing.<BR/><BR/>Because we love them.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11342425698876916791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-18074507845457251672007-04-17T22:37:00.000-05:002007-04-17T22:37:00.000-05:00there must have been something in the air last wee...there must have been something in the air last weekend.<BR/>Lulu pushed me over the edge as well.<BR/>don't blame yourself though (even though I did the exact same thing)<BR/>it's all a learning process, for both them AND us.petite gourmandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14390555269928625967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-84527768925256565242007-04-17T20:12:00.000-05:002007-04-17T20:12:00.000-05:00Ugh, I've reached the irrational point as a parent...Ugh, I've reached the irrational point as a parent, and my boy's not even a toddler yet! You're a good mom ... we all get frazzled.Damselflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00139191935886860839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-34330254203011720162007-04-17T12:21:00.000-05:002007-04-17T12:21:00.000-05:00I think you did great.GOOD FOR YOU!I think you did great.GOOD FOR YOU!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-69386269744932184152007-04-17T11:46:00.000-05:002007-04-17T11:46:00.000-05:00I wonder how many people in that store were parent...I wonder how many people in that store were parents of toddlers. Probably not many, since you would have getting some looks and words of sympathy.<BR/><BR/>But since they didn't have a bloody clue, screw 'em. You did great in a horrible situation.<BR/><BR/>Time for a BIG bloody drink. Or some ice cream. Or both.Namitohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06476552972162497517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-49239426825968754712007-04-17T00:51:00.000-05:002007-04-17T00:51:00.000-05:00F'ing great post. I love when a blog chrystallize...F'ing great post. I love when a blog chrystallizes opinion we might otherwise think is isolated.<BR/><BR/>You did a perfect motherly job. You were angry and JESUS Chicky has to learn about that full range of emotions junk somewhere. You are entitled to that.<BR/><BR/>Pretty much , year what alpha dogma said. That and great post.mo-wohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10934156423936866994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-31958789540457013312007-04-16T15:17:00.000-05:002007-04-16T15:17:00.000-05:00This is the reason why I love being part of this b...This is the reason why I love being part of this blogging community! To hear that I'm not alone in these frustration times, like today. School vacation starts and with that comes three kids are home instead of 1. And I did reach that boiling point today, and was ashamed afterward. <BR/><BR/>So, you're not alone and you handled the situation quite well, considering. But it won't be the last. Mine is dealing with 3 different personalities ALL DAY this week. Lord help me!wayabettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06993697296070707945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-88243986752899900752007-04-16T09:08:00.000-05:002007-04-16T09:08:00.000-05:00Those are the times I headed straight for the cand...Those are the times I headed straight for the candy. Because HOLY SHIT, I was pissed. And if it was close to 4 ish, I would call the husband and tell him he'd better get his ass home or else.<BR/><BR/>You did a better job than I would have. I've screamed at my toddler a few times out of extreme frustration. (I feel horribly guilty.)Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08527762200993175239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-47036316953409658772007-04-16T08:25:00.000-05:002007-04-16T08:25:00.000-05:00Mrs C~~ Even at 23, my kid can still sometimes pus...Mrs C~~ Even at 23, my kid can still sometimes push me to the point that I'd like to swat her ass.........with a 2x4!<BR/><BR/>You did fine. Chicky is fine. It will happen again, and as a human being, both of you may react emotionally. that's OK. You are a good mother and she is a great kid.Avalonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12717171111059212946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-4625419459272155302007-04-16T08:00:00.000-05:002007-04-16T08:00:00.000-05:00BTDT over and over. There is nothing like being p...BTDT over and over. There is nothing like being physically hurt to make you want to lash out back.<BR/><BR/>I hope your weekend was a lot better. Times like these suck. You aren't alone, though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-89454234529326344142007-04-16T05:06:00.000-05:002007-04-16T05:06:00.000-05:00that put a lump in my throat. but you didn't retal...that put a lump in my throat. but you didn't retaliate. you didn't. and that makes you awesome. I wish i could claim the same self control.dodohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15617322056885649095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-59955832775288856642007-04-16T00:35:00.000-05:002007-04-16T00:35:00.000-05:00Not a parent in the world can say they have never ...Not a parent in the world can say they have never been in those shoes. Mine are grown and I can't wait for the day for their kids to give them their cuppupance. <BR/><BR/>I will admit to times when I told my kids to go to their rooms and lock their doors and no matter what I told them afterwards to NOT let me in.<BR/><BR/>Always, always, remember to BREATHE!Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17632457245324216299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-24458851597551825012007-04-15T15:22:00.000-05:002007-04-15T15:22:00.000-05:00you know I think about this situation a lot. Becau...you know I think about this situation a lot. Because as a NP I once had to report a woman who told me she hit her kid. She hit her kid because she said, she thought her child was trying to be rotten on purpose and she could not handle it. This woman had a lot of issues going on, depression, an infant and a two year old at home and she needed help. I wonder did I help her or make things worse by reporting her? I reported her because she said she hit her 2 year old so hard there was a hand print left on her child. This is why. Her primary MD wasn't happy with me. Dr. C told me one day I would see what it was like. And now with two kids of my own I do and to this day I wonder did I do the right thing or did I make the situation worse...My kids drive me crazy sometimes, I try my best to keep my cool. It is hard to do!Birdswordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11976387816045845147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-56779112896463745592007-04-15T14:22:00.000-05:002007-04-15T14:22:00.000-05:00Oh that moment...oh yes, that SUCKS.All the compas...Oh that moment...oh yes, that SUCKS.<BR/><BR/>All the compassion another mother of another toddler (current and one past) can give to you.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-90060539617349754122007-04-15T13:16:00.000-05:002007-04-15T13:16:00.000-05:00I have been there. And like Blog Antagonist said, ...I have been there. And like Blog Antagonist said, I have had days where I understood how child abuse starts. My husband spent a year and a half travelling on business starting when the boys were 5 and 3. I still remember one time when I grabbed Nathan by the arm and literally threw him into his bedroom. <BR/><BR/>I can only imagine how hard that must have been in the copy center for you, and I wish I could have been there to help. Personally, if I ever see that happening to another Mother in a store, I would go over and start talking to the kid, trying to distract them. I'm surprised no one else in the store offered to help you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-41449008220976437062007-04-15T13:10:00.000-05:002007-04-15T13:10:00.000-05:00Oh my gosh. Who hasn't been there. Sometimes I get...Oh my gosh. Who hasn't been there. Sometimes I get there early on, sometimes it takes a while. Your kids are able to make you experience love and anger at the deepest levels, sometimes at the same moment. Be who you can, it is all you can do!Dihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12374193360770747417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-85476750714276395892007-04-15T12:02:00.000-05:002007-04-15T12:02:00.000-05:00No wise words to add. Just wanting you to know th...No wise words to add. Just wanting you to know that you're not alone and I understand. We all understand.Amie Adamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12317241081653904332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-47630371102724899272007-04-15T08:43:00.000-05:002007-04-15T08:43:00.000-05:00We've all felt that. We've all been there. I have ...We've all felt that. We've all been there. I have a zillion times and usually end up in tears when I can't keep it together. You are a good mom.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17049745050947936354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-40364688499997949002007-04-15T07:14:00.000-05:002007-04-15T07:14:00.000-05:00Sounds like all your fair readers can relate. And ...Sounds like all your fair readers can relate. And I for one can say that for some reason copy centers bring out the worst in my children. Their eyes get that vengeful glint, the begin frothing at the mouth and making high pitched humming sounds before becoming completely hateful. Must be the lighting or the music or a sound the copiers make that only children can hear. Lucky for me there is a candy store adjacent to our copy center. I'm not above bribery.ccehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11013507872771685003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-66060331301100048012007-04-15T01:09:00.000-05:002007-04-15T01:09:00.000-05:00I get angry, but I stay in control. My kids know (...I get angry, but I stay in control. My kids know (b/c I tell them point blank) that I love them no matter what, even when they make my angry. I'm allowed to get angry. I'm allowed to show my anger. I'm not allowed to be aggressive. No one is.<BR/><BR/>You were angry.<BR/>You were not aggressive.<BR/>The first is acceptable and inevitable. The latter a lesson in self control, for you and for her.N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07533821425490415972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-81811370686313004122007-04-15T00:32:00.000-05:002007-04-15T00:32:00.000-05:00Honey, it sounds like you handled it REALLY well. ...Honey, it sounds like you handled it REALLY well. No parent has not had a day like that once. No parent has not had a time when they snarled at their child, physically crammed them into their coat, dropped them in their crib and walked away without a word, whatever. No parent has not felt bad about it afterward, but the truth is - they have done the best they can, and handled it well because they held it in. <BR/><BR/>That football hold you mention? Is the reason that they go through this shit when they are small enough to do that with. Because sometimes there is no reasoning, you just have to take things literally into your own hands and know that as a parent, you are doing what you need to in order to get through this moment. I've used it myself, it doesn't hurt them. Putting her into her crib and walking away? Good for you. Done that too. It gives you both time to recharge and calm down, and it doesn't hurt to reinforce that you are not happy, as long as you can let it go over the course of her nap and hug her again afterwards. <BR/><BR/>I would be willing to bet there were some looks of sympathy in there too, it's just hard to see past your own feelings of being overwhelmed and embarrassed and angry. <BR/><BR/>Ya done fine, kid.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-8131122514304769812007-04-14T23:04:00.000-05:002007-04-14T23:04:00.000-05:00Let me be the 42nd person to tell you that you did...Let me be the 42nd person to tell you that you did stupendously. Go hang out in Indiana for an hour, there's where you'll see bare butt spanking in the middle of ailse 6.<BR/>The world is divided into two classes, those who have had toddlers and those who haven't, the latter can kiss you keester.moosh in indy.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12077275788790896224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-67042238596713103062007-04-14T22:37:00.000-05:002007-04-14T22:37:00.000-05:00There is nothing that you cannot control. You chos...There is nothing that you cannot control. You chose not to shake her, you chose not to hit her.<BR/>You see? You chose. There will be so many times in her life where you will have to make that choice, and the fact that it bothered you to feel that way towards your child, tells me that you will always choose wisely.flutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828689769747130419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-77119311125731578142007-04-14T21:55:00.000-05:002007-04-14T21:55:00.000-05:00You're a good momma.You're a good momma.SUEB0Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16301963922769609715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17779098.post-8142011238288650342007-04-14T21:12:00.000-05:002007-04-14T21:12:00.000-05:00Oh. That place. I know that place well. It has bea...Oh. That place. I know that place well. It has beaten me down on several occasions. I wish I didn't ever end up there but I don't know how you can parent a child and not go there. Days like today are hard Chicky but they are the exception not the rule.Madhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13416585771017767796noreply@blogger.com